'High-Pressure' Dads Can Do Long-Term Damage to their Children

'High-Pressure' Dads Can Do Long-Term Damage to their Children interactive DAD Staff Writer - Nov. 1, 2004 Pushing children to participate and excel can destroy father/child relationship.
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